A lot of these things overlap, or happen at the same time, so don't take my word for it on order. But that's what I remember of my grandmother. Her slowly forgetting - not just who her family was, or what she had done that day, or all her memories. But all her actual functions, until the lungs forgot to breathe, and she passed.I don't know, man. I feel like it's sad for us who know the difference. But for them (my grandmother) they are loving life. So I find its just important to make them comfortable and let them be in it.It's not as fun as it sounds -- one of my relatives has moderate dementia, and having her read a note and follow the instructions would be an improvement. As it is, she reads the note, wanders off, and ten minutes later does the opposite of what the note says anyway.
They love life, until they don't know where they are, who you are, and why you're keeping them their against their will. When my grandmother accused me of kidnapping her and holding her against her will one minute and the next accusing the "man downstairs" of the same thing, who by the way was her husband of 50 years and you can see the heartache in his eyes that it isn't any less sad or scary for them.
As I'm reading/writing this I'm here with my grandmother who has dementia. Our conversations keep going in circles. She asks me how I've been, if I have a girlfriend, if I'm reading my bible, how's my brother, is my dad coming by, where does my brother work, then memories about her younger days which ends in her getting depressed. Then silence for a few minutes and she starts back with, "so how's my buddy doing?" Seeing her go from one of the most fiercely independent people I've ever known to not being able to remember ten minutes into the past truly makes me sad. My heart goes out to anyone who is or has has family going through dementia.
My grandma kept the books with her. When she died, we buried her with him and the books. Because when we read it, we realized that more than half of the memories were my grandpa watching my grandma and feeling that he was the luckiest man ever.Leave it to someone on the internet who claims they have a day where they will be able to pay off student loans... I dont even want to ask for proof cause i know this is bs... NOBODY pays off student loans... Ever... Anyone who tell you they did is a loanshill,Before I was born, my grandparents invested into college plans for their grandkids. For a price of about $25k in 1990, they paid for 4 years of university for me and my two cousins. Just graduated this May with zero debt while my friends will have debt into their 40's.
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